A bridesmaid present is a way to say thank you to your bridesmaids for supporting you on your wedding day. But is presenting your bridesmaids the wedding jewellery you intend for them to use on the day as their bridesmaid present the right thing too do?

If money wasn’t a issue then yes wouldn’t it be nice to give your bridesmaids jewellery to wear at the wedding and a further gift to show your thanks at the wedding reception but that’s not always possible. By answering these questions you should be able to solve this dilemma. 

At your friend’s weddings, did the bride present their bridesmaids wedding jewelry to wear at the wedding as their gift or did they give another gift to give to them at the reception?

If it was acceptable for most of your friends and relatives to give their bridesmaids wedding jewellery as their bridesmaids gift, then it should be ok for you too. However if any of your bridesmaids have given additional presents at their own wedding then you should do the same but only if you have the money. 

Could the wedding jewellery  be worn again, not just at other special occasions but for more every day?

If the answers yes, then it should be ok to give wedding jewelry as the bridesmaid present. However if you know that it is very unlikely that they will be able to wear the wedding jewellery again or it isn’t their usual taste, get them a second bridesmaids gift, something that they will get enjoyment from. Remember a gift doesn’t mean anything it there’s no thought behind it.

Will the men from the wedding party be wearing / using their wedding gifts during the day? 

If the men in the wedding party are also wearing or using their wedding gift during the big day then it’s ok to expect the same of the bridesmaids. Make sure there are no double standards though, if you’ve given the men a gift for the wedding and then give them an extra present at the wedding reception then you should be doing it for the bridesmaids too. if you’ve already bought your bridesmaids high quality wedding jewellery which they would be able to wear again then show your appreciation at the reception by purchasing for them a cheaper present but something with a some thought behind it.

Do I have the money to give my bridesmaids wedding jewellery plus an additional gift?

When it comes to weddings, finances places huge restrictions on your choices so if money is a concern either give your bridesmaids wedding jewelry which can be reused and thank them for their support on your wedding with something that doesn’t cost a lot such as a poem created specifically for them to show how much they’re thought of. Or opt for simple and less expensive wedding jewellery such as a pearl pendant or crystal bracelet and use the money you were planning on spending on another gift.

If your purse can’t stretch to wedding jewellery and anadditional bridesmaid present but you’re worried that your bridesmaids are wanting this, then don’t be afraid to tell them you just can’t afford it. If they don’t understand then maybe you should repick your bridesmaids.

Depending on the social norms that work within your family and circle of friends will will give you an indication whether you can give your bridesmaids wedding jewelry as their gifts or not, this is also influenced by whether the men in the wedding party will be getting additional gifts.